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Life is what happens

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Life ‘they’ say, is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.

It’s all that stuff that gets in the way of you inviting your neighbours round for the dinner you owe them, becoming a millionaire with your new invention, being discovered whilst out shopping in Coles and becoming an international movie star or simply going to the gym on a regular basis to improve your fitness. There’s always something that just pops up. Or, like the old cliché of ‘the dog ate my homework Sir’ are we just making poor excuses?

We start the New Year full of enthusiasm about how it’s going to be different in 2020, the stars are aligned and a new sexy neighbour is going to move in upstairs and its all just ‘going to work out’.

Sound familiar?

But then the reality of regular life kicks in, the energy dies down, things slip back into their old routine and before you know it you’re pulling out the Christmas tree again exchanging surprised comments of ‘I don’t know where this year’s gone!’ with your friends, your colleagues, the man at the bakery, in fact anyone who can reassure you that time indeed, is flying by, and it’s not just you.

But here’s the thing, if you want to get stuff done in your life, it’s all down to YOU to make it happen. Unfortunately, there is no magic wand and believe me, I would be FIRST in the queue if there was.

So, how can you make a change this year and have the best chance of making it stick? I’m glad you asked, and because you did, I’m going to give you my top three tips.

Firstly, make sure that your goal, plan, resolution, whatever you want to call it, is something that YOU really want for YOU, not because of someone else. Check in with yourself and listen to your language. If you hear yourself saying ‘I’d love to, I want to’ that’s a good start. If you hear yourself saying ‘have to, should, ought to’ start questioning yourself as to why you’re really doing this.

Secondly, when you start on your endeavour and you hit the first hurdle (and you will) DO NOT GIVE UP! This is absolutely the golden rule, picture it glowing and flashing in neon lights above your head every time you have a down day, and pay attention to it! Whatever happens, keep going, learn from your experiences and move forward.

Thirdly, and I’m going to keep this one really simple, Be Kind to Yourself. Every time you find yourself throwing a little hate party and the main guest is you, just stop! Speak kindly to yourself, support and encourage yourself, focus on the positive instead of dwelling on the negative. Treat yourself kindly, just like you would your best friend.

Keep practising these three things all year and come to the end of any given year, you’re gonna have to find a whole new phrase to share with your friends, colleagues and the man at the bakery. Any suggestions?